My daughter was disappointed and upset yesterday because two of her best friends were together all day shopping, having lunch (with their moms), and then a sleepover. She was upset that she wasn't included. Quite simply, she was in school and wouldn't have been able to go anyway. The girls are all friends, and us moms are all friends. We do things together all the time and we do things separately, it just so happens that I work and Bella was back in school so it wasn't happening for either of us.
I am trying to teach Bella to see beyond the initial sting of disappointment and understand why she feels the way she feels. Bottom line is that she felt left out and a little jealous. I understand that all too well, my girlfriends spent many of their days at the pool when I was working. I don't begrudge them for it. Their work hours are different than mine, so I couldn't be part of those fun summer days. So we picked other things that we could all do together at various times.
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Dealing with disappointment is a part of life, it's meant to help us grow. Our children will be better adults in the end.
“Disappointment to a noble soul is what cold water is to burning metal; it strengthens, tempers, intensifies, but never destroys it.” – Eliza TaborJust sayin',